Curly is leaving because we can no longer handle his behavior and the effect he has on the household. As you know, he is bi-polar and very ADHD. He steals from all of us. He lies. He is hyper-sexual. He refuses to see any of his doctors or take his medicine.
Curly makes lots of excuses for his actions.
- "I didn't know."
- "I didn't mean to."
- "I just borrowed it."
- "I forgot."
- "My bad." (This said in a sing-song, toss-off way. Grr.)
- "I wouldn't MEAN to have a wreck."
- "Can I have some money?" (This after all my money has been stolen from my purse.)
- "I thought __ wasn't using it."
This week, Curly did something to a relative of DH's which we cannot live with. It involved a sizable amount of money being removed from a bank account in a way that was just barely legal, and most certainly wrong. We can't live with his actions any more, and have told him to leave. Curly has also forfeited several thousand dollars that this relative was going to give him for college. Moe will now get that money.
Curly is going to a college town about 1.5 hours from here, moving into a duplex with the brother of a friend of his. He will continue to work at the same place with our neighbor Bubba, so we should have regular news of Curly. His job is roughly midway between our home and where he is moving.
It's very hard to tell your 18 year old child that he can no longer live with you. But we have done all we can, and we feel this is the right and only thing to do for him now. He needs to be responsible for his actions. He needs to grow up.
I hope he will be safe. I hope he will be able to manage. I hope, I hope.
But it makes me so very sad. I am afraid for my precious darling boy.
It's in God's hands now. Please Curly, listen and learn.
I hope he grows up.